Is this ordinary/kitsch?

[crislem]

I was in a store the other day looking for something for my fiancee. I wasn't looking for something particular, just browsing. The woman from that store saw me looking and asked if she can help. I told her why I am there and whom is the person I want to buy something for.

She then pointed something to me, but my eyes fell on a little box (the type used for rings). In fact there were two little boxes, one square shaped and the other one heart shaped. I said "This one (the heart shaped one) looks kind of nice". She looks at me with a disappointed face saying "Hmm... It's too ordinary... Heart... I would recommend the square one. If I were to receive any of these two, I would like the square one. Heart is not original."

I said in my mind "What?". If I want to buy a heart shaped box to woman today, she would hit my in the head with it? I mean, is the message the same if I buy only round/square/oval things and I forget about hearts?

I don't know... I'm confused now.

[ldcdc]

Well, I know perfectly where you're coming from.

Red roses are "too common" as well, now we must go for white, yellow, anything but red.  :roll:

Kneeling down and asking her to marry you is no longer enough. For "the moment" to be special you must create a whole scenario, and probably read a few romantic books to spark new ideas.

Girls these days... But hey, we're the ones really at fault. We're spoiling them!

[crislem]

Oh yeah, I've heard that thing about red roses too. I don't know, red is the symbol of love and a red rose sends the message. The same with a heart shaped object. I think it is not about symbols anymore, we have to struggle to be original.

I don't know if my fiancee thinks the same because she always said my gifts were very nice and she seemed honest about it. She might be just very polite. On the other hand she's marrying me, so she must have liked them.

More girls' opinons could have been helpful because they know best what they think but hosting related forums have guys as users in the vast majority... Well, I was hoping guys can share their similar experiences regarding the matter and maybe we all learn another thing or two.

Dan, what does your girlfriend think about this? (if you know and don't mind sharing)

[ldcdc]

Oh yeah, I've heard that thing about red roses too. I don't know, red is the symbol of love and a red rose sends the message. The same with a heart shaped object. I think it is not about symbols anymore, we have to struggle to be original.

I agree, the old symbols seem to suffer from "overuse". Marriage itself seems to suffer from that same illness. There was little to no "let's move in together" back when our grandparents lived. They got married, that was the "move in together".

Maybe this is a trend that leads to a no symbols era. Our boys might not even be "allowed" to offer flowers to their girlfriends, as that action in itself will be silly by then.

Dan, what does your girlfriend think about this? (if you know and don't mind sharing)

Well, "red roses" don't tell her much either, but in a way she's special (well, she is special in every way, but.. ) because she doesn't like the red color.

[crislem]

And when I think I always wanted to have at least one boy... Poor guy, he's going to have a hard time finding something that is original with this trend today... But what will make it easier is the fact that I'll be there for him and I have tons of original romantic ideas. Hehe!!

she doesn't like the red color

I am lucky with my fiancee because she likes all the flowers of all the colors. She has some that she likes best, but she likes very much the others too. What can I say, I'm so fortunate to have her. Note: she's not reading on this forum, I simply mean that thing.